Heidi Rae Coaching - You Still Have Time

Babes!!

We have almost made it through January. How do you feel like you're doing?? Personally, the cold air feels very unnecessary. But some people thrive in the cold. Personally, the long and gloomy days can be hard on my soul. But some people absolutely feel their best on days like that. Personally, I am very grateful that the days are getting longer again. But can we just speed that up??

I have a sign in my office that my Miss Birdie gave me years ago. It reads, "It's Never Too Late to Live Happily Ever After."

I have always kept it in my direct line of sight. I need it to remind me often that I'm on a journey, not in a sprinting race. I also have several cards that T sent with flowers. They are all very T-esque! She is my tough-love-sister! One reads, "You have one day to be sad. That's it!! You are more than enough."

These words from my people are so true. We have time. In fact, it's really all we have. What we do with our time matters, yes. BUT, if you are reading this right now - you still have time!

This is just the best news ever!

I am going to tell you a story. Stick with me here because you're going to wonder how it correlates. It does! Pinky promise.

My friend, who also just started doing my hair a few months ago, asked me a question right when I sat in her chair. "What do you want your hair to look like in six months?"

I found my filter for a half a second, wondering why she wasn't asking me what I wanted it to look like this second. Six months?!?! "Ummm, well I'd like it to be more blonde and I'd like it to be longer and more one length than like six different haircuts - looking hair."

Then she explained that she asks that because there is no way to get my hair to the finish line today. Getting it blonde, without it all falling out, is going to take TIME. Getting it to one length when it's been a pixie cut for so long is going to take TIME. Growing it out is going to take TIME.

I loved that she asked me that and that she is doing my hair with the six month marker in mind. Our lives are not that different! We are not going to be who we think we want to be today or tomorrow. That's not how it works. Who do you want to be in six months? Let's start there!

 

Heidi Rae Coaching - Know Who You Are & Who You Aren't

 Babes!!

I had such a great conversation with a friend last week. She was telling me about her confidence. I was asking questions about how she came into that confidence, how she discovered it, how she keeps that confidence.

She said a couple of things that really stuck with me and that I wanted to really look into. Today, I want to talk about this.

She said that knowing WHO she is and stating that with others in order to keep her integrity and provide boundaries by stating her truth allows her to be confident in who she is.

Example: If you need a friend who you can call up and they'll go to dinner with you tonight... I am probably not that friend.

If you need a friend who you can text and request love or assurance or prayers from... I am that friend.

If you need a friend who will up and go to a concert with you... I am not that friend.

If you need a friend who will remind you that you are enough always and forever... I am that friend.

If you need a friend who will go to the gym and workout with you... I am not that friend.

If you need a friend who will root for your rise, who will wave at you and even give you a hug at the gym... I am your girl!

If you need a friend to go Black Friday shopping with you... I'm out.

If you need a friend who will give you a shoulder to cry on... my is available for you!

We all have different strengths! We don't need to pretend that our strengths are what they aren't. You are needed just as you are!! My village is made up of people who I love and who I choose to have in my life for so many reasons!!

Heidi Rae Coaching - It's Okay To Not Be Okay

Babes!!

We have already talked about this a few times. We GET to talk about it again because we GET to be reminded of it as many times as we need to be!

Somedays we go along, putting one foot ahead of the other, and we feel just fine, thanks! Other days, we are a hot mess and that's just the way it's going to be for the day, thank you very much. And then there are days when we just feel a bit off. We can't really pinpoint why. We've checked our vitals and we feel like we're doing what we can. But we're just off.

IT'S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY.

On these days, I keep right on taking care of my vitals.

Am I hungry? If yes, I eat foods that make me feel good.

Do I need water? If yes, I drink up!

Have I moved my body? Even if I'm at work, I get up and stretch. I walk down the hall and back. I do some squats in my office. I get my body moving.

Do I need physical touch? If yes and I'm at work, I'm blessed to have co-workers that I can go ask for a hug from. If no, I put a blanket over me or I turn my heating pad on. If I'm able to, I schedule a pedicure.

Am I overstimulated? If yes (which is VERY often post-stroke), I turn off my lights. I turn off any noise that I have going on that is not necessary. I might close my office door for a minute and just do affirmations or a quick meditation.

If I'm still not feeling super duper, I LET IT ME.

I tell myself out loud:

"Everything is as it should be."

"My value is not up for discussion."

"I am deeply loved."

And I just keep going.