The Addiction of Validation

Addictions are hard.

They are exhausting.

They, as I have noted before, take over our agency.

Addictions take over our ability to choose.

They take over our ability to make logical, good choices.

Literally.

However, as addicts, we don't see that happening.

There is almost a desensitization, a Ketamine effect.

We become emotionally, mentally, even physically paralyzed. 

We definitely become spiritually paralyzed.

And we don't even know it.

Others look at addicts... I certainly did...

And wonder WHY addicts can't see what outsiders see.

In reality, as I have said before, most everyone is an addict in some way!

All of us!

Remember, addictions are not just chemical.

Addictions to drugs, prescription medication, alcohol, food, cigarettes, e-cigs, caffeine, etc. are real.

They are also often times very visible.

Addiction to sex, pornography, exercise, hoarding, cleaning, plastic surgery, spending money, social media, etc. can also be visible, but less so. 

Addiction to validation is seriously something I didn't even know existed.

Co-dependency is a real addiction.

Worrying about other people's faults rather than looking at your own - addiction.

So many - all just as debilitating!!

T and I were talking the other night.

All addictions are crazy hard.

All of them.

None worse than the other.

I don't know what it is like to have a chemical addiction.

I am addicted to validation.

I am super late in the game with emotional maturity.

Learning is most of my recovery!

T noted that my addiction can be tricky because it's all about making choices in my life that are good choices, but with addictive tendancies can be bad.

Make sense?
Yeah, it's HARD as hell!

So, I have to be completely aware of every single thought.

Even the good, healthy ones.

I have to keep them in check so that I don't fall into the addictive process.

And I do.

With T by my side every step!