Validation 101

This quote.

Seeking validation IS the exact same as saying, "Tell me who I am. Tell me what I'm worth."

Addiction to validation is doing that to the extreme on a constant basis.

And, doing it at whatever cost necessary to have someone:

A) Define you

B) Tell you what you're worth

This was me for 42 years.

I will forever be in treatment as to not regress.

However, this was truly how my brain wired because it was what I sought out from the time I was a small child.

Tell me who I am.

Tell me what I'm worth to you.

Tell me what I need to do to be worth more to you.

I will become whatever you need me to become so I have worth with you.

And, I will make you feel worthy in the process because at least one of us should feel worthy.

So I will expend all of my energy to make you feel what I never have.... worthy.

It literally never occurred to me, until treatment, that other people don't determine my worth, my value, or the definition of who I am.

That is predetermined.

I am simply here to learn about who I am...

And that is determined by ME.

No one else.

My value, and yours, is laid in stone.

Not up for discussion.

Not up to ANYONE else.

No one.

I want to be just like Lucia, in You Are Special.

Just let the stickers fall right off that people try to put on me and visit the Wood Maker every single day.

He is the only one who really knows.

And, He doesn't make mistakes.