Unwilling

I'm sure you've heard it...

Maybe even said it...

There is a talk or a presentation or a video or an email that goes out.

It talks about things that really pertain to maybe only a handful of those viewing it.

But the ones who really need to hear it are tuned out.

They don't see themselves as needing to be refined.

An addiction to validation is a great way to illustrate that...

Although a bit different.

For someone who is an addict to validation, we hear all of it. We see all of it.

We internalize it to the extreme.

Then we continue living our life and making choices that we feel will make those speaking or sending emails proud of us... finally.

It doesn't work.

FYI.

For others, it's as if blinders are on.

It's as if they truly don't see things the way others do.

I had a Messenger conversation with someone this morning.

I am not friends, per say, with this person.

I was FB friends with her, but I've never met her...

Anyways.

She often (heavy emphasis on often) posts about her desire to change jobs because she doesn't like the environment she works in. 

She often changes jobs due to this and then speaks very negatively about the job she's just left.

I saw a post from her this morning, telling the same story.

I commented on it for the first time...

I said that I was sorry that she was having these feelings again and that I hoped she wasn't burning bridges in her field of work. I went on to say that her worth and value are unchangeable. I also noted that learning to get along with people, or to learn to let go of things, is one of the hardest things that humans have to learn. 

Welp, she didn't like that and began messaging me about how I am very judgemental and very rude and how I don't understand.

She's right that I don't understand.

I explained that I was grateful (once I was healthy again) when people could lovingly show me a different perspective. I could either go with it or not. But, I was grateful for it. I explained that I wished her the best. 

She didn't like that.

At all.

I blocked her, then she began messaging me from another one of her FB pages.

I blocked that one, too.

I feel genuinely bad for this person.

I am sad that she is struggling so much with work and with wanting to be in a relationship (which was also mentioned....)

I wanted to give her a hug.

Perhaps I should not have shared my perspective.

After all, it wasn't solicited.

I hope she knows she is loved and that her value and worth are not determined by anyone, especially not me, and that she can do great things.

I have found that it is extremely important to hear the perspective of those I love dearly and trust.

It's amazing what can be learned and discovered when we are willing to listen.