Hyper-Empathy

Let's talk about this for a minute, shall we?

I am a validation addict.

Empathy is my number one strength, according to Strength's Quest...

Moreover, ALL five of my top strengths are in that category.

This little equation that I just gave you really can equal disaster.

So, I need to be:

1. Aware

2. Vigilant

3. Show myself grace

ALL strengths have balconies and basements.

Empathy is a wonderful quality/characteristic/strength to have.

It can also be a very difficult/painful/negative strength to have if we are not paying attention to our triggers or our time spent in that strength's basement.

Due to trauma in my life, I felt that I constantly had to predict emotions in order to give people exactly what I thought they wanted.

This is exhausting.

This creates a life of lies... not knowing who I am ever because I'm trying SO hard to be who everyone else wants me to be AND then trying to find validation for it all in people who never cared about me to begin with.

Now...

This is not an end of story scenerio.

Through awareness, active vigilance, and dependence on my Creator for my validation - I am losing my "need" to be who anyone at all wants me to be.

I'm me.

If you don't like it - Deuces.