Fake Stories

Circumstances are ALWAYS neutral.

Our brains want to create drama.

Our brains have thought cycles that we need to become AWARE of and then remind our brains that we are in control.

Ask yourself:

* How am I feeling?

* How do I want to feel?

* What am I going to do to get there?

Let's break down pain that we might feel:

1. Clean pain: grieving, mourning. When something tragic happens, we NEED to allow ourselves to feel those emotions. It is cleansing and necessary. 

2. Dirty pain: Clean pain can very easily turn into dirty pain. Dirty pain is almost always birthed out of fear. It is not helpful. It is not cleansing. It keeps us stuck. It creates ineffective action. 

Processing the clean pain:

Lean into it. 

I name it.

Emotions are not scary or bad.

They are teaching us or telling us something.

The emotions might come and go and that's okay.

I ask myself what I feel, where I feel it, where is it at in my body?

Dirty pain:

When I have dirty pain (almost always birthed from my past experiences of rejection and abandonment), I remind myself that I am not in my true self.

I tell myself, out loud, that I am creating this in my mind.

I remind myself that I don't have to understand it all right now.

I just need to recognize what I am feeling, ask myself if it is true, then ask myself if it is ACTUALLY true, then finally ask myself if it is necessary to hang onto this emotion.