One very real "side effect" of Validation Addiction is burnout.
There are lots of reasons for this.
1. When in active addiction, we have no idea who we are. Therefore, we don't know our needs or our boundaries. We aren't well equipped to name our emotions and feelings, let alone feel them.
2. We give and give and give in order to feel needed, valued, and lovable.
3. We desperately want people to feel from us what we have never felt from those we needed it from the very most.
Empathy is a strength, there is no doubt about that.
But with every strength comes a balcony and a basement.
Validation Addicts tend to live in the basement of all of our strengths.
First, discover yourself through awareness.
Second, through emotional awareness learn emotions and feelings: define them and sit with them.
Third, believe and have faith so that you can create boundaries and stick with them.
Four, continue in self awareness so that you avoid self-abandonment.
Truly, the opposite of self-abandonment is self-awareness.
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