Friday, July 29, 2022

Not My Opinion To Have

I learned something this week and it's amazing!
I like to think of it as one of the many things I get to let go of...
I shouldn't have an opinion if the thing I am having an opinion about is not my responsibility.
By having an opinion, I just weighing myself down.
I'm effecting my thoughts, my emotions, my feelings, and my actions.
For what?!


It is SO easy for us to have opinions about all the things.
My Becky taught me a mantra:
I love and accept you as you are.
This is a personal mantra I do multiple times a day:
Heidi, I love and accept you as you are.

But, as we go through our daily life and we start to form opinions about other people my physical and emotional well being is SO much better when I apply that mantra to others:
I love and accept you as you are.
Even if I don't know the person!!!

 

Wednesday, July 6, 2022

Addiction Recovery - Finding Contentment is Easy!

First of all, I chose this picture because this is contentment!
Second, this is a lesson I JUST learned and I am dying to share it with you!


My coach, Becky Beck, coached me through a very important lesson this week.
She used words like, "Contentment," "Discontentment," "Order," "Love," and "Integrity."
Note: coaches are meant to coach. My coach is very to-the-point and honest with me. 
She does this very lovingly, to be sure.
But, she doesn't beat around the bush. 
That would not be helpful.

I have been struggling... a lot... without the ability to pinpoint my emotions and feelings.
Remember: I am still on training wheels. I am still learning what emotions and feelings are and how to classify them, then what to do with them.
Becky's words put titles on what I have been feeling.
Now, I can move forward.
With this, Becky taught me/reminded me of the Order of Love.

Guys, this is like the holy grail.
For real!

The first commandment:
"Love the Lord They God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and thy mind. This is the first and great commandment."
We will come back to this.
The second commandment:
"The second is like unto it, Thou shalt love they neighbor as thyself."
I am going to use and abuse the word "neighbor" in just a moment.

The Order of Love
God
Neighbor as thyself

Okay.
Now what?

Most of the time when we are feeling discontentment, we are not following the Order of Love.
Think about that.
It isn't some long, elaborate, twisting and turning problem to be solved.
It's simply following the Order of Love.

God.
Neighbor as Thyself

Am I putting God first?!
What does that look like?

Am I loving my "neighbor" as myself?!
Well, first I would have to love myself, right?!
What does that look like?

Who are my "neighbors?"

1. God.
What does it look like to love God with all my heart?
I made a list:
- Praying (this is how I get to know Him)
- Reading scripture (this is how I find that I receive answers to my questions)
- Living in integrity!!!

2. Myself.
What does that look like?
I made a list:
- Living in my truth, my true self, my integrity
- Making decisions that protect my truth, my true self, my integrity
- These decisions include where and how I spend my time, who I give my energy to, sticking to my blueprint

3. Neighbors.
Define my neighbors.
I made a list:
For me, my neighbors are the following, in this order:
- My kids
- My grandbaby
- My Family: T, Miss Birdie, B Beck, B, B's kids
**This can be fluid**
- My co-workers

Love is always first.
Love first, then obedience.
Love first, then service.
Love first, joy.
Love first, then peace.
Love first, then contentment.

More to come...