Heidi Rae Coaching - Imposter Syndrome

Hello, Beauties!

Yesterday was my hair appointment. Marlena and I had such a great conversation about this topic. I wanted to share some insights and a few lessons I learned from her!

I've talked a lot about our worth. Yours and Mine. We are born with it. There is nothing that we can do, or not do, to increase or decrease our worth. It just is. Great news, right?!

Well, it's one thing to know that. And I know that. I know that's true. It's another thing to really believe it, and live in it!

As many of you know, I was a single mama of four amazing boys for a long time. It was the five of us. We had beds, a couch, a kitchen table & chairs and makeshift dressers. That was it. And we were SO grateful for every little thing we had!

Nowadays, things are a bit different. I feel like I have imposter syndrome a LOT. This is where our conversation came in.

Here are some examples, and SUCH a good way of keeping ourselves out of imposter syndrome (false self) and in our worth (true self):

Example:

I shouldn't be at this restaurant. These people are rich, wearing brands I've never heard of, drinking wine I've never heard of, driving cars that cost more than three years of my salary...

Ask yourself:

What are the requirements to eat here, Self?

- Ability to pay the bill

That's it. That is the requirement to be able to eat there. You have to be able to pay the bill. End of story.

Example:

B bought me a pair of Sorel boots last year for winter. I wanted to return them right away. I hadn't worn "new" shoes for a very, very long time. Everything I wore, including shoes, were new USED clothes. Second-hand clothes. I saw the price and felt UNworthy and guilty for wearing them!

Ask yourself:

What are the requirements to wear these boots, Self?

- Burke paid for them

- They fit my feet

Done. That's it. Burke wanted me to have a nice, warm, sturdy pair of boots. He wanted to get those for me. I have two feet. The boots fit. He paid for them. End of story.

Example:

I haven't worked out for a minute. I've gained 18 pounds in the last year. I can't go to the gym. (these were actual thoughts I was having about a month ago)

Ask yourself:

What are the requirements for going to the gym?

- Pay for the membership

NO one at the gym cares that you haven't been there for a while. They don't even know. NO one at the gym stops and thinks, "My goodness, for sure that girl has gained 18 pounds!" And who cares if they do?! Everyone at the gym has their own struggles, their own insecurities, their own goals. I paid my membership, so I deserve to be there just as much as everyone else there to paid for theirs.

Beauties, we are worthy to live in our worth. If you are struggling with guilt or imposter syndrome, take a minute to ask yourself what the requirements are for that thing or that place. If you meet the requirements, you're in!

XOXOXO