Heidi Rae Coaching - My Love Story

Beauties!

I wrote a Love Story. It's my love story. It's a story about me finding myself and, therein, loving myself. All of myself.

A love story

“As I began to love myself, I found that anguish and emotional suffering were only warning signs that I was living against my truth” Charlie Chaplin

Just a very few years ago, I was taught about my worth. For over 40 years, I searched high and low for love. My journey was intently focused on finding love. I wanted more than anything to be loved. It was a “righteous” desire, certainly. I would change how I looked or talked or what music I listened to. I’d overlook all flashing, siren-sounding red flags. If I loved enough, I thought that would eventually be reciprocated.

Then on a simple whiteboard, in the small office of my therapist, I learned that I was innately lovable… my worth was whole, my value infinite. I was always enough, simply because I was born.

“The absence of self-love can never be replaced with the presence of people’s love for you.” Edmond Mbiaka

When I began actively working to love myself, to accept myself, to honor myself - my world opened up immeasurably. I loved infinitely better as a mom. I loved more than I thought possible as a Gigi. I connected with my forever partner. I love him better because I love myself better.

So while this may not be a mushy romantic love story, it’s the most important love story in my life! Because I’ve learned to actively love myself, I can love and be loved. It’s my love story.

We all have a love story, don't we? Some have been written. Some have not even been started. Some have chapters. Some have verses. Some are private. Some are quite public. Some are quiet, some loud. But we all have one. My hope is that you find yours and write it. Write it down. Your love story.

XOXOXO

 

Heidi Rae Coaching - Menopause Update & Hormone Costs

Beauties!!

I have some great news/advice! I went to the pharmacy last night to pick up more patches. They are PRICEY. Like, expensive. I asked the cute pharmacy tech if they would cost less if she used the "discount card."

NOTE: I found out about this "discount card" through my other prescription that is filled monthly. I went to fill it one time and the cute tech said that she got me a better price for it by using this discount card that I guess they just have in their system. That's the only reason I knew about it.

The cute tech last night said, "YES!! Oh my goodness, these patches are SO much cheaper with the discount card rather than your insurance." She wasn't kidding. I saved like $85 by doing it that way.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Ask your pharmacy techs to check the price through the "discount card." Blessing!!!

Update:

ONE hot flash since my last update

My v-health (I can't say the actual v word on here because I get blocked... for real) is back to normal

I still am not experiencing any breast pain

My sleep is still inconsistent

My joint and muscle pain has lessened. I am moving my body daily and making sure to stretch, as well as making sure I have plenty of potassium and magnesium

I am SO grateful that I started on my estrogen patches! I continue to move the locations of the patches each time I change them, i.e. from the left side of my body to the right, from my upper torso to my lower torso, etc. I haven't had any skin irritations at all.

XOXOXO

 

Heidi Rae Coaching - Bad Days

Beauties!

Do you ever feel like having a bad day is a bad thing? Like, you're breaking some kind of rule? Like, you're SUPPOSED to flip the switch and fix yourself??

I do.

A lot less than I used to... but I totally do!!

We always hear:

"You get to decide how you react to situations, so..."

"Change your attitude!"

"Your issues are not that bad."

"Snap out of it!"

The list really does go on and on.

Those phrases, and others, make us feel like there is something wrong with us if we are having a bad day... Lord help us if we are having a string of bad days in a row!!! NOTE: I am not talking about clinical depression (which I have). I am talking about bad days.

What if, instead, we tried this:

ACCEPT that you're just off you're game (give yourself permission for having a bad freaking day!)

Engage your body and your mind (your vitals)

List what your grateful for (I did this in the car this morning all the way to work... kind of forced myself to do this!)

Become an observer of your thoughts!

Show yourself kindness (shout affirmations to yourself!)

Remind yourself of a few things:

Your worth is not up for discussion. It's innate

It's a bad day, not a life sentence

You've literally survived all of your bad days... literally

You are lovable and loved and enough and amazing

XOXOXO