Process Addiction - Self Sabotage

One of the things I love most about what I do is having people send me messages that say that they have come to realize that they are an addict.

I get SO excited for them!!

Yesterday, I received a message from a lady who is now aware that she is addicted to self-sabotage and self negative talk.

OKAY!!!

Awareness is the key to starting our journeys to active recovery and feeling better!

Self-sabotage is a process addiction.

I believe that, like all addictions, validation addiction is the gateway addiction.

Also like all addictions, it is a form of self-harm and self-abuse.

Stop and think about those words.

They are direct and harsh!

Abuse is a word that no one takes lightly.

It's against the law.

But, somehow self-abuse is "okay?"

It's not!

It is never okay!

They way we treat ourselves is how we teach others to treat us.

Awareness is always the first step.

Then belief.

I believe that with God and the Atonement, I can be healthy - mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Then faith.

I have faith that God's plan for me is better than my plan for me. 

We do the self-inventory to figure out where this came from.

We discover our triggers and make our boundaries.

And, we learn and KNOW that our worth is one hundred - not up for discussion by anyone and certainly not up for discussion by ourselves.

 

Process Addiction - Mental Health Model

This is SUCH a great model!

The mental health model is also a great addiction model.

Addiction has biological, psychological, social and environmental effects.

This is fantastic.

 

Process Addiction - Flipping The Switch

Yesterday was a beautiful Spring Day.

The flowers and the trees haven't bloomed yet, but it was 80 degrees with a little breeze.

The left side of my face has been struggling a bit over the last week.

I knew that I couldn't do any sensory yesterday, so I went for a walk long my favorite Layton Parkway Trail.

The ducks were busily playing.

The stream was running.

The sound of water is so healing for me.

I just walked.

Looked.

Felt my feet hit the ground.

Heard the leaves rustling, the ducks quacking and the stream running.

I tasted the fresh water in my mouth.

I smelled nature.

I saw the water running, the ducks playing, the grass turning shades of green, the bark and roots of the trees, the clouds in the sky...

And it flipped the switch for me right away.

 

Process Addiction - Worth Talk

 I spoke to a group of young women on Wednesday.

Here is the talk.

Process Addiction - Family Pain

This.

 

The Title of My First Book Will Be...

 

Process Addiction - Self Grace

Did you know that coaches have coaches?!

We do!

I was talking to mine and she was reminding me of floors and ceilings as I was telling her about how I only made it to the gym four times last week, instead of the five that are stated on my monthly blueprint.

She reminded me that I'm hitting my floors, and THAT'S AWESOME!

We need to show ourselves more grace.

In order to have self-grace, we must be in self-awareness.

We are all still on training wheels, Friends.