Not Always As it Seems

Beautiful People, WE can do hard things.

We are made of more than just our bodies and our wounded hearts.

We are made of the things of eternity.

We have not been "set up" to fail.

We are better, stronger, and more loved than we can even imagine.

As I continue my journey through discovery, learning, finding out, and figuring out...

I learn that so many things that we hear in life everyday are not always true.

They aren't always as they seem.

For instance, this quote:

When someone has been abused, neglected, gone through trauma of any kind - their ability to CHOOSE their response may not be ALL up to them.

We are made up of our experiences.

What we do with what we have been given is not always a conscious choice.

In fact, it may be a very subconscious reaction to the event based on what they have experienced, been taught through actions, been shown through actions, etc.

When we learn better;

When we discover better;

When we are lovingly given understanding of better;

THEN we can CHOOSE better.

But, not before.

It's just not possible.

Our brains are not working that way.

Is that an excuse to do evil?

No!

However, it is a good way to understand why sometimes people make choices that we just shake our heads at and don't fathom.

For instance, I am under-developed in my emotions and feelings.

Due to that, my choices have not been the best choices.

However, they were my choices based on what I THOUGHT was right or worthy or responsible.

Those choices made no sense to a lot of people, even me at times...

But they were my choices based on what I had.

Now, I have so much better.

I am becoming more and more developed in understanding feelings and emotions.

With that development comes better choices...

Or at least the ABILITY to make better choices.

And my choices are looking different now than they have ever looked in 42 years.

Growth.

Learning.

Discovery.

Tools.

Change.