Be KIND

Sunday, Mike and I were driving to or from somewhere.

I actually have no idea.

But I was telling him that one of the many things I love about him so much is that he always, and I mean ALWAYS, looks for something positive to say to people.

Saturday night when his sister walked in our house, I heard him exclaim, "Tesia! Your hair looks absolutely beautiful!"

He is always so genuine.

He is thoughtful in his compliments.

And he is constantly looking for ways to share them.

He is also a defender of those who might be struggling or having a rough day.

I admire that so much about him.

After I thanked him for his example in that, I told him a story from 30 years ago that I remember to this day.

I was a Beehive in Young Women's.

I was 12 or 13.

We were at an activity where a lady in the neighborhood who did hair was showing us some tips and tricks in her home.

This was a lady that I was always sort of envious of.

She was physically stunning.

She had the "perfect family."

She had the "perfect home."
I wanted to be just like her.

She told us about a challenge that she gave herself years prior.

That challenge was that every single person who sat in her chair would be given a genuine, sincere compliment from her.

This woman told us of a situation that occurred a few weeks prior.

She had a client in her chair and was doing her hair.

She had been searching and searching for something about this woman that was beautiful.

On this particular day, and with this particular person, she was really struggling to find anything.

The hair appointment was coming to an end and she still had not found anything about this customer that she felt she could genuinely compliment.

Then, the woman smiled.

That was it!

She told the client how absolutely stunning her smile was.

The client began to cry and said no one had ever told her that before.

Day=made.

Yesterday, as I scrolled through social media, I came upon a FB Live done by a Younique Presenter.

She is a "black status presenter."
That means she is among the elite and highest ranked presenters in the company.

I like to watch her lives because I feel she is real and raw and not your "typical" beauty influencer.

You can always count on trolls being on these lives.

They pick out every little thing AND THEN, they comment on them.

Negative.

Hurtful.

Bashing.

Mean comments.

About someone they don't know.

About someone they can unfollow or just not watch.

They take time out of their day to intentionally mock and slander these people.

I had enough.

I replied to one of the comments.

I simply asked this stranger to BE KIND.

I asked her to please simply not watch if she doesn't agree with, or like, this person.

I told her how sorry I was that her day must have been so awful that she found it appropriate to speak to and about someone like this in a public manner...

That she spent her TIME doing this...

Repeatedly.

Being unkind does NO GOOD.

If you don't agree with someone;

If you don't like someone;

If you feel offended by someone;

YOU get to unfriend them, unfollow them, leave the situation, leave the relationship...

But taking time out to be unkind, to mock someone, or insult someone... what a waste!

That only reflects on you.

Please be kind.