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I have stated over and over again that bullying is prolific with adults.

We wonder aloud why children are bullies.

We need only to look at the adults in and around us to see why that is.

I was watching a FB Live last night.

It was a girl who sells Younique.

Every single Live that she does is filled with comments insulting every single thing about her.

And yet, she keeps at it.

She continues to be kind and friendly and happy while on camera.

But, in her heart I can only imagine that the comments that adults are making every day are hurtful and are damaging.

I don't understand it.

I don't understand what good people think comes from saying mean things.

Or saying anything at all.

I have learned, too, that some people don't "intend" to hurt people when they say things.

What DO they intend to do then?

What IS their intention??

When there is the option to keep your mouth shut... USE THAT OPTION.

Don't write things that are hurtful or demeaning or selfish or inflammatory.

Don't type things on your phone or on your computer to other people that have no positive at all.

Just don't say anything at all!

In particular, as an addict -

People feel that they actually have the right to say things.

And, the best part (insert sarcasm) is that they feel that if they say things to other people and not to me directly, they are somehow doing good.. or "helping" me... or "helping" my children.

News flash: that is not helping anyone.

At all.

It is hurting people.

It is hurting me.

It is hurting my children.

When people are saying positive things about themselves, in an attempt to compare and contrast their character to someone else's...

News flash: that is not helping anyone.

Please remember that no one on this planet has more worth or value than anyone else.

There are not big sins and little sins.

We all came from the same place.

We were all created by the same being.

Don't think that because you feel that your sins are less than, or are less intentional, or are less noticeable, or are less problematic that you will somehow be exalted about someone who you deem to be more sinful or more hurtful.

That's not how life works.

If you don't want to watch someone.

If you don't want to look at someone.

If you don't want to listen to someone.

If you don't want to be around someone.

Then don't.

But keep your mouth shut in the process.

Because your judgements; your insults; your accusations; your words; your actions:

In the end only reflect on you.