Heidi Rae Coaching - Core Beliefs

Babes!!

What if we can change our core beliefs?? WE CAN!! (sorry, I didn't put in that silly spoiler alert warning)

Facts about CORE beliefs:

- We aren't born with core beliefs; we learn them

- Core beliefs usually develop in childhood, or during a stressful or traumatic period(s) in adulthood

- Core beliefs are usually rigid and long-standing

- We are literally wired to ignore information that contradicts our core beliefs - our mind is constantly justifying our core belief system and labeling all other beliefs as "wrong"

Personally, my core beliefs both developed in childhood AND came from trauma in adulthood. How did I learn this?? STEP FOUR of the 12 steps. You MUST peel back layer by layer until you get to the root of why you believe the things you do. *I STRONGLY suggest doing this with a therapist and/or coach*

Harmful core beliefs will do damage!

- Low self-esteem

- Depression

- Anxiety

- Lack of trust in others

- Feelings of inadequacy

- ADDICTION

Beliefs are not right or wrong. They just are. The win is in awareness and adapting to rational, balanced reactions to the beliefs that we have.

Example: "I can do this! I'm amaze-a-balls. I'm brave. I'm strong. I'm dedicated to this goal."

INSTEAD of: "I'm weak. I'm lazy. No wonder I never achieve any of my goals. Good things are not meant to happen to me."

So, to switch our core beliefs from non-adaptive to adaptive OR negative to positive OR false self to true self, we can:

- Take our non-adaptive/negative/false self beliefs through the "self-reflection tunnel." To do this, we become aware of our belief, then ask ourselves if it is a belief or a fact. Again, STEP FOUR. It's the hardest, most important step of all 12 steps!!

Example: I'm unlovable.

Is this a belief or a fact?

It's a belief.

What is the fact?

I, and every other human, IS lovable simply because they were born.

This isn't a one and done. This takes a whole lot of practice! But, it can be done!

XOXOXO